Good Will Hunting -- Real loss only occurs when you dare to love something more than you love yourself

I remember that this scene had touched me deeply back in 2003 when I first watched it. I think it is already big step to learn to love yourself. I am still learning how to do this, and I have met lots of people who also don't know how to go about learning who they are and loving all the good and bad things about themselves. Some people of course, find it easier to fall head over heels over someone else and indeed, love their partner or friend more than they love themselves.

This contains a trap! When you forget about step 1 (which is loving yourself) and you immediately jump to step 2 (which is loving somebody else) without first knowing yourself well, you risk facing the trouble of losing yourself in that relationship and being prone to be taken for granted. Indeed, if you don't respect yourself and your opinions in order to put certain limits to your relationships, no one else will put the limits for you. A relationship without limits is an one sided relationship (personal experience talking!).

Indeed, loving someone else more than you love yourself requires knowing and appreciating yourself. The good and bad side of you, your ups and downs, your likes and dislikes, your mistakes as well as your triumphs.

It's not just Good Will Hunting who had no clue how to do this. If anyone knows how to do it, I'd be delighted to hear about it :)

Don't go too close to what you love

Μια μαντινάδα από την Κρήτη, που μου την πρωτοείπε ο πατέρας μου όταν ήμουν κοριτσάκι και μου την επανέλαβε τώρα που μπορούσα πια να την καταλάβω. Πάει ως εξής:

Όπου αγαπάς, μην πολυπάς

κι αν πολυπάς, μην πολυκαθίσεις

κι αν πολυκαθίσεις, μην πολυμιλήσεις

κι αν πολυμιλήσεις, κάτεε όσα λες

Αλλά όπου αγαπάς, μην πολυπάς

This is a 'mantinada' (a Cretan song) read to me by my father when I was younger. He repeated it to me recently, now that I can actually understand what it's about. In an attempt to translate it myself, I guess it would go like this:

Don't go too close to what you love

and if you do, don't stay too long

and if you stay long, don't speak a lot

and if you speak a lot, be careful what you say

But don't go too close to what you love

Keeping beloved ones a step away from you gives you the time and space you need to work around your thoughts and come up with what it is these people actually give to you; why they are important. It also gives you the chance to see if you are as important to them. Holding some thoughts for yourself and not sharing it all with the people you love can create the mystery in which love could flourish. Otherwise, if you give it all away, it becomes less rough and perhaps less fun.

Lets give it a go

Going through a self-actualization phase in my life, I have decided to give it a go and put my thoughts into blogger. 'Born under a rainbow' is my way to list the thoughts I have collected throughout the years which shape up who I am today. The name of the Blog is perhaps the best characterization I have heard from a friend about me and my world.

I would like to believe that I was, actually, born under a rainbow :) I would also like to maintain a rainbow above my head throughout this life and even share some of its colors with the people I care for.

My goal with this blog is to create a page with my most favorite things in life which make me (and perhaps you too) feel good inside! Songs, pictures, thoughts and places to visit would be some of the things I'll be listing every day. So excited about my new toy! :)