Good Will Hunting -- Real loss only occurs when you dare to love something more than you love yourself

I remember that this scene had touched me deeply back in 2003 when I first watched it. I think it is already big step to learn to love yourself. I am still learning how to do this, and I have met lots of people who also don't know how to go about learning who they are and loving all the good and bad things about themselves. Some people of course, find it easier to fall head over heels over someone else and indeed, love their partner or friend more than they love themselves.

This contains a trap! When you forget about step 1 (which is loving yourself) and you immediately jump to step 2 (which is loving somebody else) without first knowing yourself well, you risk facing the trouble of losing yourself in that relationship and being prone to be taken for granted. Indeed, if you don't respect yourself and your opinions in order to put certain limits to your relationships, no one else will put the limits for you. A relationship without limits is an one sided relationship (personal experience talking!).

Indeed, loving someone else more than you love yourself requires knowing and appreciating yourself. The good and bad side of you, your ups and downs, your likes and dislikes, your mistakes as well as your triumphs.

It's not just Good Will Hunting who had no clue how to do this. If anyone knows how to do it, I'd be delighted to hear about it :)